The holidays are all about spending time with your family and closest friends. If you recently split from your spouse, however, you are probably not feeling a whole lot of joy or the desire to deck the halls with boughs of holly. The last thing you want is to ruin the holiday spirit for your children or for yourself, so before you bah humbug your way into the New Year, review the helpful tips we compiled, so you can effectively co-parent your way through the most wonderful time of the year.
Navigating the Holiday Season with Your Co-Parent
One of the most important steps you can take at this time is to review your parenting plan. No one has a perfect memory, so avoid stepping on your co-parent’s toes by making sure you are not scheduling anything during their time with the children. Doing so can save the two of you a lot of trouble. If your co-parent has the kids on a day that falls on an event you wanted to share with them, ask in advance and offer to swap another day to make up for it.
Taking this step is respectful, considerate, and will help keep you out of court. Moreover, the better prepared you are, the more effective you will be at reducing conflicts.
Here are some additional tips for you to review:
- Be open to starting new traditions: You will not have the children every year, for every holiday. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of this, focus on the positives. If you do not have your children for Thanksgiving or Christmas one year, start new traditions. You do not need to celebrate any of these holidays on their assigned date. Celebrate them on another day of the month and make it your own.
- Be flexible: Planning is essential, but it is not always possible to stick to a plan, so it is crucial to be flexible. The more willing you are to extend these acts of goodwill toward your co-parent, the more likely he or she will reciprocate, so do not be afraid to be kind.
- Talk to your children: If this is your first holiday season as a divorced parent, you can expect your children to have a tough time with it. To make it easier and reduce their anxiety, have a talk with them to let them know what to expect, so they can feel emotionally prepared for it.
- Treat yourself: The holidays might be hard for you as well, so when you have time for yourself, take advantage of it and do something nice for yourself. Have a spa day, go to the movies, binge-watch a TV show, or have a night out with friends. Whatever brings you joy, do it, so you can be the best version of yourself.
Contact an Experienced Family Law Attorney
At Aharonov & Revy Family Law, LLP, our experienced family law attorneys are committed to providing personalized solutions for any family law matter you are facing. We understand the holidays can present some challenges that might not be easy for you and your former spouse to address without going to court, which is why we are here to give you the assistance you need.
Call us today at (818) 960-1330 to schedule a consultation.